Friday, June 3, 2016
So what do strippers and motivational speakers have in common?? Well think about it #1 they both make you feel good about yourself when you go into there establishments. And #2 they both give you self confidence and make you feel good when you need it most. So let's look at #1 strippers.
So when you walk into a strip club you pay a fee at the door and you find a place to sit order a drink or 2 and wait. And then when the show gets started the stage lights come on and she/he comes out and starts dancing your in anticipation and cannot wait for her/him to get to you because you know when she/he does it is going to make you feel really good not in just a physical way but also boost your self confidence and ultimately make you feel great :) So what about #2 motivational speakers
Well think about it it is almost exactly the same as #1. You pay for your ticket in advance and show it at the door or you can pay at the door. When you get in you find something to drink not alcohol obviously but a drink from a vending machine. And then you find your seat and sit down with anticipation waiting for the show to begin. And then BAM!! The lights come on the music starts playing and then the speaker turns up on stage and you and the rest of the audience get super exited and super pumped! When he/she speaks and you loose yourself in the voice and confidence of this individual you start to feel really good about yourself and your both #1 and #2 were worth every penny.
So now that you read this I'm sure you see my point. So until the next post you all enjoy life don't let it just pass you by and just settle for anything
Saturday, April 12, 2014
Ok before I even begin to write this blog I just want to give a shout out to my brother because he is the inspiration behind this blog. I know you haven't heard from me in a while and I apologize for that me and my family has been going through some personal struggles but I'm glad to be able to write another blog post. Ok now what to do if your going through struggles in your life like I am now. Well the first thing I would recommend is talking to your family and friends now don't do like I did and text your brother late at night and asking him to call you when your drunk!! However you should talk to your family this will really help you through your hard times I say that when your down and out trust me family is who you are going to need the most.
Ok If you have any experience at all in life you will clearly know that nothing good ever comes easy think about it! Do you have any children well if you do than you know it ain't no picnic to raise children as I heard it best said raising children is the hardest but the most rewarding job you'll ever do. Or you just got married or you been married for 5, 10,15 years or longer well ask any couple who has been married for that long and I can guarantee you that they will tell you that there has been ups and downs in the marriage and that is not surprising as marriage is a partnership and any partnership is difficult to maintain. Another example is maybe your health isn't that good or maybe you injured yourself and have to go through things that you never had to before like physical therapy or maybe you gained a little too much and you have to lose some weight to maintain your health. But..... Whatever the situation is once you get to where you want to be you will feel so much better about yourself but..... it won't be easy to get there!! I know right now I'm personally going though financial hardships in my business and yes I was feeling sorry for myself and like a stupid ass I text my brother and told him to call me and believe me I never should have done that. Now honestly I didn't think he would call me till the next day but as luck would have it he called. Anyway it was a good thing he did because he set me back on the right track and set me straight and sometimes we all need that in our lives.
Now I know that if your like me you like everything to be just the way you planned it and as you know it hardly ever works that way but at least you want it to go most of how you planned it right?? I know that I am totally guilty of this when I get frustrated I sometimes just scream not at people mostly but myself. Now sometimes I may yell at someone else but I really try not too but I think I get frustrated with myself more than anyone else. If you want to know what I sound like when I get mad you will have to watch the video above. My dad taught me something very valuable when he taught me to play guitar he said that when you get frustrated just put the guitar down and go outside and take a walk or do something else to get your mind off it and when you feel more calm and relaxed try it again and I found that to be really helpful. But this works in all aspects of life when your going through hard times. So when you find yourself getting too overwhelmed you need to just take a step back and breathe and relax. When you can take a day or 2 to yourself and relax your mind and get lots of sleep I find that this always helps me improve my mood.
Ok before I wrap this up I just want to say that you should always re evaluate your life at least once a year. I mean think about it when your working a job don't you have to do inventory to see the things that you need to run that business. Well the same thing should go with your life you should do inventory on your life once a year at least to see what you need and what you don't need to make you happy and successful. The things you need you should keep them and the things you don't need GET RID OF THEM!! Well like I said before to all my subscribers I really do hope this helps you and before I sign off I again want to thank my brother Chet for 1. giving the inspiration and 2. Putting my ass on the right track in life like I said sometimes we all need someone to say count your lucky stars as I am putting it and thanks to everyone who reads and subscribes to my post most appreciated.
Tuesday, November 26, 2013
This is a guy that you should pay attention to it;s not just about a business but it really is about being so afraid about letting go of there own money because most people will be afraid of it being gone forever. The truth is that it is when you hold on to your money for dear life that we actually fail. You may have heard this on this on the 700 club where they tell you about tything but it's not just in a religious since but it's in an everyday since. I heard something that was so true that I live it I was told that pay attention to what everyone else is doing and do the exact opposite. So listen to this video and I promise you that it will change your mindset because your mindset is what you have to change before you can change anything else in your life. I just say go for it!!
Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Ok today I want to talk to you about something that is or should be important to every body. I watched Tony Robbins on OWN last year and I wrote alot of quotes down and put them in my little black book. When I was at my moms I took that book with me and looked over some of the things I wrote. After looking at her house I was going to do some other quote but I wasn't feeling it and then when I got home I opened up my notebook again and I found this quote I wrote down and it was Progress = Happiness.
And I said yes this is definatly the one I want to do. So here it is. So you might be asking what is progress = happiness what does it mean and can anyone do it. Well yes anyone can do this but you just have to learn how and that is what this is about so lets get started!!
Ok first of all let me ask you a few questions. How many times have you gone to work came home and seen that the dishes were dirty or the carpet needed vacumed or you needed to do laundry ect. And how many times did you say oh I will just do it tomorrow I still have clean dishes and I still have some clean clothes left and the carpet vacuming can just wait I'lll get to it later I'm too tired. And next thing you know a week goes by a month goes by and it gets to the point where you HAVE to do it! Now your bugging out and taking it out on your kids and your other family members like it's there fault when in reality it's your fault for not doing it when it needed done in the first place. So now that I got the questions out of the way and before I get to how to do this I'm going to tell you a little story to let you know how I came about this so here is my story keep reading..........
Ok for the people who know me they know that I worked in the food industry for over 16 years and like you when I moved on my own if I had a long day I would come home and say you know I'm tired I'll just do dishes tomorrow or I'm to tired I'll just vacum or clean the bathroom tomorrow. Well In the year 2000 I moved to this apt. I did get everything unpacked and my x helped me. Years later she left and moved to another city and things went south for me lets just say. I got fired from my job but then got re hired a year later thanks to a nice lady named Margie. So I was working what seemed even longer hours and you guessed it I would come home and say I'll just do the dishes tomorrow or I'll just do the laundry in a few days I have clean underwear or I'll clean the house later no one is coming over today and of course I still have a few days to pay that bill. Well what do you think happened? Yep that's right I spent half my weekend cleaning, doing dishes, doing laundry going shopping ect. So fast forward to 2011 I decided to quit my job and work for myself. But......... I noticed something I was still letting things go till the last minute and shit was piled up and I said fuck this this shit is getting done!! So I went through my house like a cyclone and just cleaned and when I was done I just looked around and promised myself that this was the way it was going to stay and until this day this is exactly what I do. So now I'm going to tell you exactly what I do and more so keep reading...........
Ok step #1 First of all you want to do what I did in my above story and get your house in order literally!! You need to go through every room and get rid of all the garbage in your house or Apt. If you don't need it or use it GET RID OF IT!! Ok after you get rid of everything you don't need and throw it away you now want to put all the things that you need and kept in a nice neat order. Remember to put the important stuff like bills and other important paperwork somewhere where you look often this way you won't forget to pay your bills because you didn't see them. Ok moving on.
Step #2 Now you need to get your bills paid off to do this just grab a pen and paper and write down how much you bring home every month. Now take 30% right away and put that in your grocery list because you do need to eat. Now you want to subtract all the other bills from your income like rent, electric, gas, car payments ect.. Now if you have no money left over at the end of the month you might want to change things otherwise your going to be broke and go deeper and deeper into debt. Look over all your bills and say do I need that right now?? For example if you have a $100 + cable bill you might want to think about calling and reducing it or cancel your cable all together until you can get caught up to where you have extra money at the end of the month. If it's your utility bills that are causing you to not have extra money at the end of the month you will want to consider moving to a place where the utilities are included or if you can't move you might want to even consider getting a room mate that will help you pay the bills. Believe me you need extra money at the end of the month if you want to get ahead.
Ok step #3 This is the last step. If you have credit card debt you want to get that paid of ASAP. So how do you do this well first let me tell you what not to do. Do not sign up for any of those consolidating credit services I did this because i was $15,000 + in debt and I thought it would be a good idea but I was wrong. What they do is take $300 a month and they take half and put the other half into an account for you and after you accumulate so much money into that account they settle your debt. Instead I want you to take out all your credit cards that you owe on and I want you to pay off the smallest one first. You do this by paying the minimum on you highest credit card debts and paying as much as possible on the one that has the lowest balance. The reason I say this is because if you pay the one with the highest balance first like them credit services do it's going to take you longer to pay it off and the longer it takes to pay off those credit card debts the more interest you'll accumulate so you want to pay off the smallest one first because it will take you a shorter time to pay it off and the faster you pay them credit cards off the less interest you have to pay and the more money you'll have in your bank account make since??
Ok after you do these three steps above your set now all you have to do is KEEP DOING IT! Don't do all this hard work and then fall back into your old ways because if you do you'll go right back to where you started. And a tip: Once you do all these steps consider auto pay to pay your bill you can do this on most bills like utility bill, car payments ect. This will make it a whole lot easier for you to pay your bills on time and it will boost you credit score as well. Well I hope this helps you and this is what I got out of Progress = Happiness I'm sure Tony Robbins tells it differently.
To Your Happiness
Wednesday, June 19, 2013
Ok let me tell you a little story about myself before we get to the video. I am James West and I will be 41 on June 21st. My mom met my dad when I was around 4 or 5 years old. I was diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy when I was born. Before I go on I should also tell you I was blessed with 2 brothers and 3 sister 2 of them I didn't meet till I was in my late teens. So anyway back to my story. As I said I was born with Cerebral Palsy I was not walking and barely speaking at this time so my parents decided to take me to Easer Seals this is a place where they work with children with special needs. So after going to this place for around 6 months Easter Seals couldn't figure out what to do and they told my mom and dad that I would probably never walk or talk. Well my parents took me home and my dad went to do something can't remember it was some time ago and my mom just looked at me on the floor I can't imagine how helpless she felt but in spite of that she decided that she was going to work with me one on one and that's exactly what she did and a week or 2 later I remember they took me back to Easter Seals and they told her that she is doing more for me than what they can so he doesn't have to come back.
So now my mom worked on me a little more and I was up and walking and when my dad came home my mom said honey I got a surprise for you. So she took my dad by the hand led him to the kitchen took my hand helped me up and said now walk to your dad. And when I did I can remember it till this day that my dad started crying it is one of the only times I really saw my dad cry. So then I use to watch my dad play guitar all the time and really wanted to learn but my dad didn't know if I would be able to or not. So finally after I was 12 and still persistant on learning he let me take my brothers guitar which the string were real high off the neck and he said if you want to learn your going to lean my way. He was like my Mr. Myogi when it came to guitar playing. He taught me so well that when he was teaching a friend of his we would play together to entertain the man he was teaching and the man Paul my dads friend knew that I loved this white electric guitar he had. So one day Paul my dad and my mom pulled a trick on me and said you know jimmy you broke Pauls white guitar and I started crying on the spot not because I thought I was in trouble but because I felt horrible for breaking his guitar. It was my 14th birthday I believe and after crying for about 5 minutes they pulled out the guitar case and said here open it. Not knowing what to expect I opened it and there it was the white guitar I loved and my mom and dad said that Paul was so impressed with the way you could play that he wanted you to have it for your birthday you could say I was exited to say the least. Later on down the road my dad convinced me to start writing my own music and around 17 I wrote my first song and around 19 20 years old I had my first song published. I went on to write and have about 2 to 4 more songs published in my early 20's. Years later I got a job and got an offer to run sound for a music group that believe it or not made the whole way to Nashville Star and made it in the top 10 finalist. The group was called One Lane Bridge I still keep in touch with them even today. Look here's the bottom line what if I said no I can't walk or no I can't play guitar because of my handicap or no I'm not a good enough song writer to get published and heard by thousands of people or no I don't think I'm good enough at running sound to try running live sound imagine what I would have missed out on in my life!! So remember if you don't think you can do something because you or someone else told you you should ask yourself will I regret it if I don't at least try. So please don't give up before you even try because like the title says I can't never did anything. :)
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